Why the interest?

In 2015 I took a real deep look at myself at the period when I started to write my book "My Life - Naked And Raw" and when I started the blackstar.STUDIO project. It was like a voyage of self discovery and fortunately for me, the editor of my book is a practicing psychologist who naturally took a very keen interest in my book. This then lead me to obtain some professional insight to the type of person I am. I'm far from narcissistic but have always known that I have a different outlook to many people and I suffer in the most positive way of literally dreaming the most vivid of reality type dreams every single time I close my eyes. This is very draining, but I would not change my dreaming for the world, it's like living a second life and I have every sensory perception when dreaming. So I delved a little deeper and below are the finding of my results.

Ah, the outgoing introvert...

The most complex and satisfying of all puzzles. We have mad layers of depth and feelings…like an onion. Or something. I don't know. Just read and get to know what you're getting yourself into before dating us, okay?
1. When we see you after a long day, we might be all irritable and not want to talk.
It has nothing to do with you. Outgoing introverts, though still introverts at their core, often need to recharge after a large use of social energy. After a long day of dealing with people, our social batteries are drained and we need to unwind and recover, usually alone.

2. We’re charming creatures and can be the life of the party, but..
You’ll be surprised how much we actually live in our heads. People often confuse us for extroverts, but we're too introspective and over-think too much to be one.

3. If we like you, we really like you.
We don’t waste our time with people we’re not completely crazy about. If we agreed to go on a date with you, we like you. Take it as a huge compliment.

4. We have times when we’re weird with our phones.
Some days we can talk for hours, but sometimes we’re not so good at replying and talking on the phone. Don’t take it personally - we screen our phone calls, even from our closest friends. Outgoing introverts sometimes hate the phone because it’s all, like, intrusive and tears our minds away from whatever we’re deeply focusing on (and we are always deeply focusing on something). Our mind doesn't change direction easily. Listening to one thing and seeing something else is a lot of sensory input piled on top of everything that's already going on in our heads.

5. But don’t worry, in person we’ll listen to you for hours.
We have spectrums of introversion, so we’re good listeners. We’ll always be naturally in tune with how you’re feeling, so we’ll be able to see through any front you put up and make you jump into the deep end.

6. We need to dip our foot in the pool first.
We need time to warm up, so, like, chill. We tend not to outwardly express our feelings and spill our whole life story in the first hour of meeting you. Or the first year.

7. Our energy level depends on our environment.
Yes, we can get annoyed easily. If we vibe with the crowd, we can get our energy from human interactions. But if we don’t, we’ll start to get really introspective and reflective, and tend to withdraw into ourselves. It’s kind of like a hit or miss. We’re very selectively social. But it’s not because we dislike people - it's actually the opposite. We dislike the barriers like small talk (which often comes with going out) creates between people, and try to avoid it at all costs.

8. We kind of hate the typical first date.
Maybe it’s 'cause we hate small talk or something. Over-thinking is like a part of us so at times we enjoy a break from our heads. Be willing to go somewhere authentic where we won’t have to awkwardly sit across from each other asking the typical "get to know you" questions.

9. You'll think we are flirty with everyone.
Okay here's the thing, when we inevitably have to interact with people, we make it seem like there’s nothing in the world we'd rather be doing. It's 'cause we're, like, overly sensitive and so we go out of our way to make other people feel comfortable and happy. We're intuitive and outgoing at the same time.

10. We can see through bullshit.
So don't try to deceive us. We’re kind of like a human lie detector. We will always find out the truth (muhahaha)... just kidding. But for real, we often have a keen eye for detail, noticing things that may escape others around us.

Research has found that introverts pay more attention to detail and exhibit increased brain activity when processing visual information. A study shows that the brain of an introvert weighs internal cues more strongly than external motivational and reward cues. Since outgoing introverts are a unique blend of both an extrovert and introvert, we rely on our own internal instincts and logic to make decisions and form beliefs.

So basically you're screwed. In a good way.
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